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Surprisingly Hard to Watch

We recently watched Being the Ricardos, which was quite good on its own, and also put us in a nostalgic frame of mind about I Love Lucy.

So we got hold of the series, and I must tell you: it was a great disappointment. It’s just hard to watch.

Desi Arnaz was enormously talented and his talent is on full display. And as Ricky Ricardo, he’s married to someone who’s at least his equal*, and he treats her like an annoying teenager. He cannot tell her often enough that her role is simple and circumscribed: clean the house, cook the meals, have the babies.

I miss liking that show… but I’m glad we’re at a place now where this is our reaction to it.

* – in-character, she’s his approximate equal. In the real world, as entertainers, Lucille Ball was the equivalent of dozens of Desi Arnaz


America’s toxic masculinity is fixin’ to poison the world.

From refusing masks to gun-worship: it’s all supported by these horrific images from the past.

Things You Must Have

Marketing is the delicate art of convincing people they need something they would never have heard of, until you told them they needed it.

When someone tells you of something you “must have” by a certain age, you are being marketed to.

When you are being marketed to, someone is trying to reach into your wallet. If not your monetary wallet, maybe your political or spiritual one. Remember this: nothing you can sign over to them will ever fill their abyss. So consider only the benefit to you.

For another view of that, check out the march of time as Gemma Correll details things women “must have” by the age of thirty.

Click Thru for All the Ages

BTW I disagree about the last item for the 1950’s. Vodka served many, just as well.


Click through if you’re a REAL man.
Or not.

The author says, they don’t think all “masculinity” is “toxic.” They think that there’s a lot of it that harms men because of the restrictions it places on our expression of emotions, especially grief or pain.

That’s absolutely true. But the thing I have been thinking lately is, there’s nothing we call “masculine”, that’s both a positive and only masculine. A trait that women just don’t manifest. Can you think of one? I’ll wait.

Stupidity Burns

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I have long asserted that the apparent stupidity of Rethuglicans is wilful and malicious. If you saw Pumpkin turn his daily COVID-19 hour of lies (“press briefing” LOL) into a commercial for My Pillow today, you now know what I mean.

But even more seriously: read this article. The aim of the right-wing noise machine now appears to be literally to reduce the population. To kill as many of us as they can.

Other conservatives have framed protective measures as a threat not only to America’s rugged individualism but to masculinity. The Christian pastor Jonathan Shuttlesworth referred to social distancers as “sissies” and “pansies” who have been “neutered,” and described Christians who use hand sanitizer as having “fake faith” and “no balls.” Another minister said he would never close his church, because his congregants were not “pansies.” Some politicians, including the lieutenant governor of Texas, and pundits, including Glenn Beck, have gone so far as to suggest that older Americans should be willing to risk death to preserve the economy.

The Conservative Campaign Against Safety

Good old toxic masculinity! Just when you thought that was something we only worried about in happier times, like 2018. This may be evil of me but I really sincerely hope they get exactly what they wish for. That is to say, they should get exactly what they wish for you and me.

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